What is teen dating violence (TDV)?
Teen dating violence occurs between two people in a close relationship and includes physical, sexual violence, emotional/psychological abuse, and stalking. It is a pattern of behaviours one person uses to gain and maintain power and control over their partner. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former partner.
According to the research conducted in five countries involved in the "Love & Respect" project, in average 54,8 % of young people or teenagers (who have some experience with relationships or dating) have been or are experiencing some kind of repeated violent behaviour from their partner for a longer time.
Types of violence/abuse
Psychological/Emotional violence include name calling, shaming, embarrassing on purpose, yelling and screaming, keeping you away from friends, threats, making you feel guilty, constant monitoring, damaging property, humiliation, threats to expose your secrets, starting rumours about you. Emotional abuse may not cause physical damage, but it does cause emotional pain, harms sense of self-worth, lowers confidence and self-esteem. As a result, you may start to blame yourself for your partner’s abusive behaviour.
Sexual violence refers to any action that pressures or coerces someone to do something sexually they don’t want to do and includes: unwanted kissing or touching, forcing someone to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity, sexual harassment, rape or attempted rape, refusing to use condoms, sexual contact with someone who is very drunk or unable to give a clear “yes”, forcing someone to look at pornography. It is important to know that just because the victim “didn’t say no,” doesn’t mean that they consented. Sometimes physically resisting can put a victim at a bigger risk for further abuse.
Examples of physical violence include: pushing or pulling you; pulling your hair, grabbing you to prevent you from leaving, throwing something at you,; scratching, punching, slapping, biting, strangling or kicking , using a knife, gun other weapons.
Stalking refers to a pattern of harassing or threatening tactics, including when a person repeatedly watches, follows or harasses you, that makes you feel afraid or unsafe.